Imagine having a friendship that lasts for decades, built on trust and shared experiences. Now think about that bond suddenly breaking apart. That’s what happened to our main character, a 34-year-old woman, on her special day. After enduring the hurtful actions of her best friend of over 20 years, she wrote a heartfelt letter expressing her pain and disappointment.
These two women shared a friendship that appeared unbreakable.
Alyson, who is 34, wrote us a sincere letter about a tough situation with her lifelong friend Miranda, aged 35. Alyson shared, “Last weekend, my childhood best friend got married. I was excited to be there for her on her big day. But things didn’t go well.”
Alyson explained further, “Right after Miranda asked me to be her bridesmaid, she gave me a long list of things I had to do. She wanted me to look more ‘girly’—wear a dress, heels, grow my hair to at least shoulder length, dye it, get a tan, and even cover up my tattoos with makeup.”
Alyson felt uncomfortable with this, saying, “I’ve been a tomboy since I was a teenager, so dressing up like that didn’t feel right. But because I cared about my friend, I agreed to everything except growing my hair.” Despite doing what Miranda asked, Miranda later told Alyson she didn’t need her as a bridesmaid anymore. This left Alyson feeling upset and unsure about what to do.
As the wedding preparations continued, Alyson found herself increasingly frustrated with the situation.
Alyson kept going, “Even though Miranda and I had some problems because of her demands about how I looked and her decision to kick me out as a bridesmaid, I still wanted to help with the wedding favors and desserts.” She remembered working really hard, saying, “I put a lot of effort into making a beautiful dessert table that everyone loved.”
But things got worse when Miranda asked Alyson to save money. “She told me my husband couldn’t come to the wedding because of the budget,” Alyson said, feeling upset and disappointed. Even though she was hurt, Alyson tried to be understanding. She explained, “Even though I was sad, I wanted to support Miranda, so I offered to do my services for less money as a wedding present.”
She remarked, “Miranda’s unfriendly behavior didn’t end there.”
Alyson wrote, “A month later, Miranda told me my husband could come to the wedding, but I’d have to sit away from the main table.” Alyson’s husband, who’s a wedding photographer, offered to make a professional wedding video for Miranda and her fiancé because they didn’t have a videographer.
Miranda liked the idea and suggested they sit at the vendor table so they could work with other vendors. Alyson said, “We thought it was a good plan and agreed to sit there.”
But things went wrong on the wedding day. Alyson explained, “We got there early to help. My husband filmed, and I set up the dessert table. After the ceremony, when everyone went to the party room, we were surprised to find out we weren’t on the seating list.” They were put in a different room, away from the reception, with no chance to join the fun or be part of the celebration.
Alyson felt incredibly hurt by everything that happened.
Alyson said, “When they told us to go to a different room, I asked Miranda what was going on. She admitted there was a mistake but didn’t fix it. So, we ended up missing most of the wedding, stuck away from the fun. I spent the night crying in the bathroom while my husband filmed the event, still wanting to make a nice video for them.”
Later, Alyson talked to Miranda about how she felt. “Miranda said sorry and blamed it on being forgetful that day. But even with her apology, I don’t want to be friends anymore.”
Their friends wanted to know what happened between Alyson and Miranda. Alyson said, “I kept it short, not wanting to share all the messy details.” But then Miranda started telling her side of the story.
“Some friends came to me, saying I should say sorry to Miranda and be nicer because it was her wedding. Turns out, Miranda was making it seem like I was the one causing problems, saying I got mad at her for no reason.” Alyson was mad that the truth was being twisted, but she told their friends what really happened. She ended by saying this made her think about who she wants as friends in the future.
