People who used to be married or divorced and are now in a new relationship can be a very painful subject to talk about. This is especially true when an ex-partner lives with the new family all the time. The main character today is a 34-year-old woman who went through an even worse time in her marriage and life. The woman found out that her husband’s ex-wife is four months pregnant. She thinks this is a huge problem that could ruin her marriage and make her life with her husband less happy. The desperate woman wrote us a letter in which she told us why she was so angry about her ex-husband’s pregnancy and how she thought it would cause a lot of trouble in her own family.
Angela wrote us a letter from the bottom of her heart and told us her story.
Angela, a reader who is 34 years old, just wrote an extremely moving letter to our editorial. The woman told her story and talked about why she can’t sleep at night and feels very anxious since she found out that her ex-husband’s new wife is pregnant.
Angela admitted that she thinks people will have different reactions to her situation. She wrote that some people might judge her for her mixed feelings. At the same time, the woman wanted to hear from both men and women who would read her story and have ideas on how Angela could solve the problem that was causing trouble in her normally happy and peaceful family.
It wasn’t long ago that Angela and her husband started their own happy family.
“My husband Dean and I have been married for three years now,” Angela began her letter. This marriage is everything to me. Dean and I fell in love after he was divorced from his ex-wife, and I don’t think I owe her anything. I never got in the way of her marriage and didn’t cause them to break up. The things that have been going on between my husband and his ex-wife have become very important to me, though. Now I feel like I’m being hurt by their old relationship because I have to give up too much for their relationship to stay friendly.
Their three kids are all teenagers and live with their mom. Dean is married to Julie. I’m pregnant with our first child, and until recently, everything in the family seemed to be going well.
A while ago, the ex-wife of my husband called us with exciting news. She said she’s four months pregnant. This might not have had any effect on our family because she’s living her own life now and my husband isn’t the father of this child.
I was very angry and sad when she told me she was pregnant, though. It’s making me nervous, and I haven’t been able to sleep well at night since because my husband is still the most important person in this situation, even though he doesn’t want to be.
Angela is furious about where her husband stands in this complicated situation.
As Angela continues her story, she says, “The main point is that my husband and his ex-wife have a legal agreement that he keeps paying the mortgage on their house until their youngest son turns 18. We’re involved in the lives of his kids; we see them often and talk to them every day. That being said, they’re great kids, and I can see why they don’t want a new sibling at this point in time.
I’m mad, though, mostly because of my husband’s responsibilities. He owns the house and pays the mortgage, so no one else can live there. The lawyer told them to do this while they were getting a divorce. Everyone was sure this was fair up until now. Now, my husband’s ex-wife wants her new boyfriend, who is the father of the baby, to move in with her. This means that my husband will have to pay the full mortgage for another man’s baby and his ex-wife’s new boyfriend.
Things are getting worse very quickly.
He ex-wife said that if my husband insists on selling the house, she will have to move far away with three of their kids to live somewhere else. This makes things even worse, Angela says.
I’m also worried that my husband doesn’t pay for anything in my house, where we live now, because the mortgage is so expensive that he can’t afford anything else. I’m okay with this, but I also think it’s unfair that we have to pay for a new baby and his ex-girlfriend’s new partner. Now his ex is pulling the same tricks on him, leaving him with no choice because their kids may live far away.
A lot of people have told me I shouldn’t feel this way because everyone has the right to live their own life. But my spouse is a good person, and I feel bad for him. He only wants to be fair to everyone. But I don’t know what will happen with us in the future, and I can’t keep giving up more and more for the happiness and comfort of his ex-wife. What should I do?”