A 35-year-old woman wrote to us because she’s worried about her kids being around another woman. Her letter was heartfelt and seemed like a plea for help.
The topic she brought up is sensitive for everyone involved. The concerned mom wants to hear our readers’ opinions about her situation, which involves her children and her ex-husband’s new wife. She shared the details of the conflict and told us her emotional story.
Sarah and her husband Mike divorced in a very civil way.
Sarah, who is 35 years old, shared her complex and emotional story with us. Her letter showed a lot of frustration, and her anxiety was clear from the words she wrote. Sarah is struggling with conflicting thoughts and wants to avoid conflict as much as possible.
However, she can’t ignore the serious issue of her kids’ safety and well-being any longer. Sarah wanted to know if our readers think she’s making the right decisions or if she’s overreacting to something harmless happening in her family.
She began her letter by saying, “My husband and I were married for 13 years before we divorced two years ago. We have two kids, aged 13 and 8. Our divorce was amicable, without any drama, regrets, or blame. Both Mike and I have been working hard to help our kids cope with the divorce. We show them that we both love them and still respect each other. My ex-husband and I are good friends, and everything has been going perfectly between us so far.”
Mike has a new wife and Sarah was happy about it.
Sarah continued her story, saying, “Last year, Mike remarried. His new wife, Emma, is a young and lovely woman who truly loves him. I learned about their relationship right from the start and was happy for Mike’s new chapter. It’s important to note that there are no lingering feelings or jealousy between us as we’ve both moved on and found new partners.”
“My biggest concern has always been how our kids would connect with our new partners. Since Mike started his new family before I did, I paid close attention to how his new wife, Emma, interacted with our kids from the very beginning. Thankfully, Emma wanted to be friends with them and made a sincere effort to bond with them in a warm and friendly way. I didn’t see any reason to object to their positive relationship. The kids were allowed to visit their place and spend as much time as they wanted. They even went on vacations together, which I thought was great. Everything was going well until one day, I made a shocking discovery about Emma.”
Sarah wrote, “Recently, I logged into Facebook to check my oldest son’s profile. I came across Emma’s page and found that she had been regularly posting pictures of my children. While that alone wasn’t necessarily a problem, the posts included their full names, pictures of their jerseys that showed where we live, and worst of all, she was tagging their exact locations in these posts on her very public Facebook page.”
“I was furious when I discovered this disturbing online behavior. Since then, I’ve repeatedly asked her to stop. Emma always promises to do so, but then I find new posts, like one with a picture of my 8-year-old daughter in a swimsuit, again on her public page.”
Sarah is desperate about the whole situation.
Sarah wrote, “I confronted her about it. Emma told me I’m being unreasonable, stupid, and that it’s not a big deal. This is the only thing I’ve ever asked of her: not to post about my kids. The major issue is that Emma doesn’t filter her friends list (she has over 6,000 friends) and her profile isn’t private at all. We’re not friends on Facebook anymore (she deleted and blocked me when I asked her to take down the posts about my kids), but she unblocked me, so I can still see everything she posts (we’re still not friends and everyone can see her content).”
Sarah is really upset about the situation. She admitted, “I recently called Emma and told her not to contact my kids anymore. Mike was furious when he found out I forbid his wife from talking to our children, but I feel like I have to protect my kids from Emma’s careless actions. I might seem like the bad guy here, but I don’t think I crossed a line. Mike keeps defending her actions. Am I asking too much? If her Facebook page was private or she was careful with her friends list, I wouldn’t mind as much. But it’s not, and she doesn’t seem to care who sees what she posts.”
