Hi, I’m a 25-year-old guy, and my girlfriend is 23. We’ve been together for more than a year, and things have been good between us. She’s funny and kind.

Yesterday, when I came home, there was a Golden Retriever in our house. I asked my girlfriend whose dog it was. She smiled and said, “It’s ours.” I wasn’t sure if she was joking or serious, so I kept asking. She kept smiling and saying, “It’s ours,” and then she said the dog’s name (I can’t remember it because I was so surprised). She even said to the dog, “Say hi to Dad.

“I told her she couldn’t be serious, and she just smiled and asked why. I didn’t say anything else; I just left the house and went to a hotel.

Early in our relationship, I told her I don’t like dogs and can’t be around them. Even in public, I keep my distance from dogs and their owners. I said if she ever wanted a pet, it couldn’t be a dog — maybe a cat or something else.

While I was at the hotel, my girlfriend called a few times, but I didn’t pick up. Then she texted me, saying I was overreacting and that my fear of dogs was silly. She suggested I give it a chance and live with the dog for a while, and she and the dog could help me get over my fear. But I never asked to get over it, and it never bothered me as long as there were no dogs in my house. I avoid dogs in public by keeping my distance. I’ve never even petted a dog, and I don’t plan to.

I ignored her messages and went to sleep. I needed to clear my head and decide what to do. I don’t want to be the guy who says it’s either me or the dog. She loves dogs, and I don’t, so I’m thinking of breaking up with her, even though she’s been amazing all year. Is it wrong to break up with her over this?”