A 24-year-old woman took to Reddit seeking advice.
She, 24, is facing a tricky situation with her 35-year-old boyfriend. He works overnight and gets home at 4 am, wanting her to sleep in the living room because her movements wake him up. Every morning from 4 am to 6 am, she has to leave the bedroom so he can rest. She wonders if she’s being selfish for not wanting to leave the room when he gets home.
He insists she’s selfish for staying, complaining that her presence makes the room too hot. “Our couch is too small to sleep on (it’s actually a love seat), and the floor is way too hard for me,” she explained.
However, for her, sleeping in the living room for a few more hours is uncomfortable.
She dislikes it because the living room is much brighter than their bedroom, which has blackout curtains. They have an air mattress she could use, but their cat would probably damage it. They even talked about getting a new couch, but “he didn’t want the couch because, according to him, I’m the one who wants it.”
Feeling it’s unfair to sacrifice her sleep for his 8 hours of rest, she wonders if she’s wrong. She seeks advice on how to handle the situation.
The comments overwhelmingly supported her.
Many Redditors empathized, noting it’s unfair for her to constantly give up her comfort and sleep. They pointed out that sleep is essential for both partners and that compromises should be made from both sides.
Some suggested practical solutions, like investing in a larger bed, getting a separate cooling pad or fan for her side, or finding other ways to reduce heat and disturbances without her having to leave the room.
Others criticized the boyfriend for not wanting to help buy a couch despite it being for both of them and for dismissing her discomfort. They encouraged her to have a serious talk with him about finding a solution that works for both of them and to reconsider their relationship dynamics if he’s unwilling to compromise.
