Weddings are supposed to be joyful times, but sometimes they can come with family tensions, especially with mothers-in-law. A Reddit user shared her story seeking advice about her own mother-in-law issues.

She explained:

“This situation with my future mother-in-law has left me shocked. I haven’t talked about this with my family or close friends yet. I found this community on Google and saw some helpful advice. My fiancé doesn’t know about this because he’s away for work.

My mother-in-law doesn’t seem to like me much, although she hasn’t said it directly. Instead of using my name, which is short, she uses the names of my fiancé’s ex-girlfriends, which are much longer. She kept doing this until my fiancé noticed and talked to her about it.

Her excuse? She blames it on her age, saying she forgets things. But she’s only in her early 50s. She’s very subtle and passive-aggressive, so it’s hard to understand what she really means sometimes.

“To explain a bit, my family is middle-class, but my fiancé’s family is wealthy. During a surprise party my fiancé threw for me, his mom hinted that my gift would come later in the mail. To my surprise, it was a prenuptial agreement! No one in my family has ever dealt with something like this.

After checking it out and talking to a coworker married to a lawyer, I found out the prenup’s terms are pretty tough. It says things like I won’t get support if we divorce and there are even penalties for cheating. One weird part is that I have to spend time with my future in-laws.

My future mother-in-law knows I got the prenup because she’s been calling me a lot since it came. I’m confused because while I’m okay with signing one if my fiancé wants it, this one seems really strict. Plus, I don’t think my fiancé even knows about it because he asked his mom what she got me, and she just smiled and said, ‘You’ll see.’

A lawyer I talked to said it’s ‘very unfair and degrading.’ Is it normal for a future mother-in-law to push for this, or am I making a big deal out of it? Now, she’s pushing me to sign so we can keep planning the wedding.”

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