Trying to save a marriage after an affair is very hard, especially when there’s a child from the affair. On Reddit, a woman asked for advice because she didn’t want any connection with her husband’s child from his affair.
After nine years of marriage, in 2021, my husband and I found out he was being sued for child support. This came from an affair he had soon after we got married, almost breaking us up. But we chose to go to counseling and set some rules for staying together.
One rule was that my husband would get a second job to pay child support without using our household money. Also, I told him I didn’t want any relationship with the child from his affair. Over the past few years, my husband has been getting to know his child, but recently, he told me about some “baby mama drama.”
My husband’s affair partner is going to jail for 8 months starting in May. He wants to take custody of the child during this time so the child doesn’t have to move across the country to live with their grandparents. The child doesn’t want to change schools or be far from their friends, dad, and mom (who will be in a local jail).
When I heard this, I left the house and came back with an apartment guide, showing I was serious. My husband asked if I meant it, and I told him my feelings hadn’t changed since three years ago. Even though he said this situation was different, I repeated that I didn’t want to take care of his child and offered a friendly divorce if he decided to take custody.
I made it clear that my decision was final and I wouldn’t be responsible for someone else’s child.
