A Reddit user shared a tough situation with her daughter. The mom has been kind to her daughter, who lives with her and has kids. But their relationship caused big problems, which might hurt everyone, especially the kids. Now the mom is trying to figure out what to do.
The mother-daughter relationship seemed to be the warmest at first sight.
The parents sheltered their daughter together with her big family.
The woman continued her post, saying her daughter works part-time and her fiancé works full-time as a chef. They’ve been living with her for a year and a half because they were kicked out of their last place. The daughter, her fiancé, and their six kids use two bedrooms upstairs, but there’s not much space.
The couple often asks the woman for help with phone bills, but she and her husband don’t ask them to pay for anything else. They hope the young family can save money to get their own place. However, the woman admitted they probably weren’t saving much.
The daughter left her mom in shock right on the Christmas Eve.
The woman continued her story, saying she’s had to deal with noisy kids at all hours and waking up to take care of them. She loves her grandchildren but never complained to her daughter because family is important to her. She and her husband didn’t expect their daughter and her family to live with them for so long. They even postponed remodeling their house because of their daughter’s needs.
Then, on Christmas Eve, the daughter announced she was pregnant with baby #7. While everyone else was excited, the woman felt worried because there wasn’t much space in the house for another child. Her husband felt the same, and they decided they had to ask their daughter and her family to find their own place.
The woman feels bad about her decision, but she feels this was the only one that would be right.
The woman had to talk to her daughter and her boyfriend. She told them they had 2 months to find a new place because there wasn’t enough room for another child in their house. Her daughter started crying, saying she couldn’t believe her own mom would kick her out for having a baby. She said it wasn’t fair and asked for more time. But the mother didn’t change her mind, she apologized and said the decision was painful but necessary because the living conditions were too crowded.
Her daughter demanded more time, threatening to go to court. The woman told her courts only give 30 days. Her daughter accused her of being selfish and said her grandchildren would be homeless because of her. She even made a Facebook post asking for a place to rent because she was pregnant and had nowhere to go, claiming her family didn’t care about her.
People’s advice was controversial, yet many agreed with the woman.
Many people sympathized with the woman’s situation. One person said, “She is 27, and it’s time for her to stand on her own two feet. I could not imagine having an extra nine people in my house, including an infant! They’ve been taking advantage for far too long, and should NEVER have added another pregnancy to the mix until they got their own place. Even then, it doesn’t sound like they can afford all these kids they keep having. This is not on you, they’ve made these life decisions & it’s time they figure it out.”
Another person said, “The longer she stays, the more she is taking advantage of you and your husband. You know that. I don’t think you can just kick them out to be homeless (I’m thinking solely of your grandchildren here) but you can help them find subsidized or low income housing. Then they are on their own. The bank of mom & dad is closed. What they are doing to you is grossly unfair. Good luck.”
